Small Group Leader Covenant
Thank you for your interest in serving as a leader at MyChurch. There are a few things we want to make sure we say up-front as you begin the small group leader process.
By choosing to enter into a leadership role in our church, you are entering into a position of authority. Our people will watch you closely and take what you say seriously. We think that is a good thing. Leaders should be role models. The challenge is that being a role model is all-encompassing. As a role model, your lifestyle is part of the equation. What you present at church functions should be consistent with who you are in your various roles the remainder of the week.
In the past, that was all that needed to be said. There was consensus around what constituted consistency between “church behavior” and life in general. As culture has changed however, there is a need to be more specific. The three issues that surface the most have to do with sexual relationships, substance abuse, and social media.
The last thing we want to do is put you in a position where you feel pressure to teach, represent, or appear to give assent to a view on one of these subjects that you do not personally embrace. So on these three subjects, here is what we expect small group leaders to communicate and model:
Regarding Sexual Behavior
We teach that sex was created by God as an expression of intimacy between a man and woman within the context of marriage. Volunteers who embrace lifestyles or behaviors that conflict with this teaching will eventually find themselves having to pretend to be something they are not or believe something they don’t. In an effort to protect you from a potentially awkward situation, we ask the following:
- If you are involved in a sexual relationship and are not married, we ask that you not take on a leadership role at this time.
- If you are pursuing a same sex relationship, we ask that you not take on a leadership role at this time.
- In the spirit of being a good role model, if you are single and living with a member of the opposite sex, we ask that you not take on a leadership role at this time. We do not want to put you in the awkward position of having to explain your arrangement to people that you are leading.
- If you are married and are currently involved in a sexual relationship outside of your marriage, we ask that you not take on a leadership role at this time.
Regarding Substance Behavior
If you have a history of alcohol or drug abuse, this might be something God uses in a positive way to steer a future generation in a different direction. If you feel that this is part of your message, and perhaps part of your motivation for wanting to get involved as a leader at MyChurch, we would love to talk with you further. While we might disagree on the timing of your involvement, we don’t want to miss an opportunity to partner with what God is up to in your life.
- If you have been arrested for or convicted of an alcohol- or drug-related offense in the past twelve months, we ask that you not take on a leadership role at this time.
- If you are currently being treated for alcohol or drug abuse, we ask that you not take on a leadership role at this time.
- If you have used marijuana or any other illegal substance during the past twelve months, we ask that you not take on a leadership role at this time.
- If consuming alcohol to the point of being unable to drive or to the point of it being illegal for you to drive yourself home is a regular part of your weekend or weeknight routine, we ask that you not take on a leadership role at this time.
Regarding Social Behavior
The people you lead will visit your Facebook page. If you blog or maintain a Twitter account, some in your group will opt to keep up with you through those mediums as well. While social media can be a great connection tool, it also serves as a window into your life beyond church. In light of that, we ask that you leverage social media with church members in mind. We realize this is a judgment call.
- A growing follower of Christ.
- A MyChurch Partner (attended a Connect Event).
- Align with the vision, doctrine and mission of the church.
- Love people and want to help them take one step closer to God.
- Share the Vision – believing in the mission/vision and inspiring others to share it.
- Mission: Helping People Find their Way Back to God.
- Methods: We’ll Change the Way You Think about Church.
- Distinctive: Grace, Relationships, Excitement, Authenticity, Team
- Model the Way – leading by example, letting others see God at work in you.
- Connect – Growing spiritually doesn’t happen when we know what Jesus says. It happens when we apply what He says. Application happens best within the context of community. To grow spiritually, you have to be connected relationally. (Acts 17:27; Matthew 4:4, 7:24; Proverbs 3:5-6)
- Serve – Jesus did not come to be served, but to serve others. We are never closer to the heart of God than when we use our God-given gifts and abilities to help others find their way back to Him. If you are still breathing, it means you still have a job to do on earth. You were made with a unique passion and purpose that God planned for you to use in His Church! (Matthew 20:28; 1 Corinthians 12; Ephesians 4)
- Give – God blesses us far beyond what we deserve. As overseers of His generous resources we should consider it a privilege to give back to Him generously. When we do this, it makes us focus less on ourselves and our needs, and more on the needs of others. We do this through sacrificial giving of our tithes and offerings. (Malachi 3:10; 2 Corinthians 9:6-8, 9:13; Acts 20:35)
- Invite – Jesus doesn’t want the church to be an exclusive club. He wants everyone to know Him and follow Him. So we think it’s vital, that as we become fully engaged in the church, that we invest in the unchurched people within our sphere of influence. It means that we genuinely care about them, get to know what’s happening in their lives, and, when the time is right, invite them to take an appropriate next step toward Jesus. (Philippians 1:27)
- Encourage the Heart – celebrating, challenging, and caring for others.
- Communication – weekly calls, notes, emails
- Prayer – share requests, lift each other up, celebrate victories
- Ministry Needs – care for those hurting in your group
- Accountability – spur each other on to more perfect love and good choices
- Enable Others – building teams and raising up new leaders.
- Raise up an assistant leader.
- Give everyone a chance to use their gifts (food, social events, teaching, care, prayer, etc.)
- Team-Building – ice-breakers, life stories, social hangout, etc.
Small Group Leader Commitment:
As a Small Group leader I am committed to leading people within the Leadership and Vision of MyChurch. I will do my best to pass down the same heart.
Pledge of Confidentiality:
This is to certify that I, a leader/host of a MyChurch small group, understand that any information (written, verbal or other form) obtained during the participation of this group must remain confidential. This includes all information shared by participants about themselves or others unless given permission in writing. This also includes other information which may be discussed that has a reasonable expectation of privacy.
I understand that any unauthorized release or carelessness in the handling of this confidential information is considered a breach of the group’s agreement to maintain confidentiality.
I further understand that any breach of this agreement could not only cause harm to participants but could cause possible liability to the church.
Therefore, as a participant/leader/host, I agree to maintain confidentiality within this group.